Cookie, French Fry, Or Just A Bad Boyfriend Food?
Remember the last time you fell hard?
No, I don’t mean slipped and landed unceremoniously on your tush because you were fumbling for your keys while trying to juggle a double Starbucks’ Mocha Latte.
I mean, fell hard. Come on, girls. You know what I’m talking about.
Maybe you were waiting on line at the supermarket or groaning as your calves burned after another Soul Cycle class. It doesn’t matter.
He’s there, just a few feet from you, and he’s gorgeous.
You stare, fixated on his perfect jawline, impossibly high cheekbones, and Richard Gere hair through which you’ve already pictured yourself running your fingers.
Suddenly, he ambles over. Your heart sinks in your chest; you wipe the sweat from your brow and check yourself for BO. You open your mouth, but nothing comes out. No biggie. You hit it off instantly. Yep, this is the guy for you. Already, you’re picturing the white picket fence and 2.5 kids. You go on a few dates, and everything seems great.
But here’s the problem. After date #4, you discover a few unsavory “details” about Mr. Right. He’s rude to the wait staff at restaurants; he always “forgets” his wallet; he doesn’t like your friends; the word “commitment” causes him to break out in hives.
Your BFFs tell you to pull the plug. Your family hates him. You see the handwriting on the wall, and the money leaving your bank account. You know he’s 100 percent wrong for you. But you can’t stay away. Every time you feel like leaving, he pulls you back in. You’re hooked. No matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to make a clean break (and deep down, you don’t want to).
I bet you have foods like this. Cookies, guacamole, pasta, candy, potato chips—you try your best, but you can’t seem to resist them. These foods are your bad boyfriends. They’ve been making you miserable and fat forever. But like clockwork, you return to them every time. Friends, family, even our doctors tell us to stop, but we ignore their pleas. They soothe us; they comfort us when we’re feeling down. They’re even better than sex—they bring us immediate gratification and require little foreplay.
And after we finish with them, we feel awful and fat. We beat ourselves up. Does, “I’m never doing that again,” sound like a familiar rallying cry? HELLO? How’d that work out? Bet you returned to your bad boyfriend foods every time. If the opposite were true, you wouldn’t be reading this email.
CAN YOU TURN HIM DOWN?
So, what do you do about your bad boyfriend foods? Do you keep giving in, while packing on the shame, guilt, and pounds?
If it’s a bad boyfriend, the answer is almost certainly a “YES.”
But here’s the good news. With the right strategies, you can overcome temptation, restore sanity to your life, and wash those naughty men out of your life and off your waistline.
BREAKING THE BAD BOYFRIEND HABIT
I know you can do it but breaking the bad boyfriend food habit isn’t easy. These men have ruled your life for years. They’re not going to give up control willingly. You’re going to have to take the control back.
How do you do this?
It starts with an HONEST INVENTORY. YOU MUST TAKE AN HONEST INVENTORY OF YOUR BAD BOYFRIEND FOODS and know that these foods can’t (or shouldn’t) be a part of your everyday life. If you’ve had an ongoing, lifelong drama with bite-sized cookies, this is probably not the best food for you. Look at your pattern with bite-sized cookies. Have you always overeaten them? Have they always caused you to lose control? Have you ever been able to stop at one? If you answered “yes,” “yes,” and “no,” to these questions, then you probably have your answer. Please don’t delude yourself into thinking that you can have just a little of a morsel of food that has always caused you to lose control.
Looking at the foods that do and don’t work for us is NEVER easy. This isn’t a matter of simply locating the most nutritionally sound foods. Nutrition knowledge doesn’t magically make us thinner. I mean, ladies, we all know that an apple is better for our health than a plate of French fries. No, this about identifying the foods that do and don’t work for you and your life.
Below are my six favorite tips for finally breaking the bad boyfriend food habit.
TIP 1. KNOW WHO YOUR BAD BOYFRIENDS ARE. Weighing protein, tracking points, and counting calories won’t do you much good if you don’t take a long hard look at which foods work for you and which work against you. I’m not just talking about changing your weight or clothing size. Weight is a symptom of a much larger issue. To lose weight and keep it off, you have to change the thinking and behavior that got you into trouble in the first place. And get rid of the idea that you and your ex can be ‘friends.” Your bad boyfriend is a compulsion; otherwise, you would have ditched him the first time he asked to borrow money or cheated on you. Food that causes you to lose control of your eating is going to do what it’s always done and give you the results you’ve always gotten: extra pounds, extra inches, and a first class ticket to a larger pants size.
TIP 2. FACE WHAT HAVING A BAD BOYFRIEND MEANS. Since the food isn’t going to change, you must. If you don’t come face to face with the reality of how you act around the foods that cause you to lose control, you will never reach your ideal weight. If gummy candies are your bad boyfriend food, there’s almost ZERO chance you’re going to be able to control yourself around them. Stop testing yourself to see whether you can handle the risk of being around these foods. You can’t, and you’ll keep failing. But, does breaking the bad boyfriend habit means that you’ll never find true love again? Of course, it doesn’t. But you will have to be smart about where, when and how you consume foods on the bad boyfriend list. And I can teach you how.
TIP 3. OMG, PLEASE DON’T MAKE EXCUSES. Most of us have been socialized to treat food as a reward or a treat. “But it looks so good,” we say. Or, “It’s a special occasion,” “I had a bad day,” “It’s for the kids,” or “I cooked it, so I have to eat it.” Food isn’t comforting after ten rounds with your spouse or a reward after a hellish week at work. This approach ALWAYS, and do mean ALWAYS, leads to failure. And you know what people say about excuses.
TIP 4. STRUCTURE AND ORGANIZE YOUR FOOD ENVIRONMENT. Like changing the pin # on your bank card, or putting parental controls on the TV, structuring and organizing your food environment is vital for limiting the power of a bad boyfriend. Scheduling your meals and snacks and finding a regular time to watch TV or even run errands can help structure your food environment. Also, plan your meals. It may seem tedious, but know in advance what you’re having for breakfast, lunch, and dinner and snacks. Don’t go into food situations unprepared. You don’t want to be scrambling when you’re starving! Planning helps you resist temptation, especially the lure of a bad boyfriend.
TIP 5: GUARD YOUR FOOD ENVIRONMENT. You know what people say: out of sight, out of mind! Do everything you can to keep your bad boyfriend out of your house, especially your kitchen. Unless it’s for a special occasion and you feel confident that you can control your eating, avoid tempting food establishments such as ice cream stores or the corner bakery. Why set yourself up for failure? You have to make a concerted effort to avoid the bad boyfriend drama. In other words, use your head!
TIP 6: LEARN FROM YOUR PAST. All dieters must come to terms with their past attempts to control their weight, which probably included a fair share of disasters. You can look at your previous efforts as a failure, or you can learn from your mistakes. A child who’s potty training seldom succeeds on the first go-round. There are going to be a lot of misses and messes. Losing weight is no different. Expect setbacks and anticipate failure. They’re normal. But with each attempt, look at what works and what doesn’t. The only way you ever really blow it is by not learning something from experience. Yeah, mistakes are obstacles. But obstacles are opportunities. Make the most of them.
Want to know more? Please visit me at Lyssaweiss.com, check out my NEW Skinny Jeans Online Course or take a look at my book, THE SKINNY JEANS DIET. You can do away with those BAD BOYFRIEND foods once and for all!
Believe me, this works. I am living proof. I’ve had my heart—and belt buckle—broken more times than I care to remember. But guess what? I’ve been in a long-term monogamous relationship with MR. SKINNY for 23 years. Nothing feels better than slipping on a pair of skinny jeans, and that includes a box of Girl Scout Thin Mint Cookies.